Wednesday, December 9, 2009

"The Weight of Silence"

The Weight of Silence The Weight of Silence by Heather Gudenkauf


My rating: 4 of 5 stars
I could not put this book down! I read it over two days and was just captivated by the characters and also by the description of the woods where most of the action takes place. They were magical & romantic at times, and scary & forboding at others and also hold meaning to each of the characters.

The main character of the story is Calli, a child who has selective mutism (meaning there is no medical reason she cannot speak, but she doesn't speak) as a result of experiencing a family trauma. Over the course of two days while she is missing, her history begins to unravel through the perspectives of the other characters in the book (her mother, her brother, her best friend, her best friend's father, and the town's deputy sheriff). As the story unfolds, we begin to understand what life is like for little Calli, and we learn what has lead to her mutism.

I started to love her little friend Petra who was outgoing and spunky and stood up for Calli against the kids who made fun of her and the adults who grew frustrated with her. Her brother was also a favorite character: kind-hearted and protective of her and really seemed to understand her.

Calli's father is an abusive alcoholic and while you never really like him, I felt like that realities of living with an alcoholic were portrayed accurately, and without bias. It seems like sometimes an author can either really play up the pity card of the horrible disease of alcoholism or can really make you judgmental against the alcoholic and I didn't feel like this author did either...it was presented as a very matter-of-fact, unfortunate presence in these people's lives.

Each character in this novel seems to have their weaknesses, doubts, obstacles, and trials & it was interesting to watch how each reacted to them. The novel reveals the experiences, situations, and decisions that led them to this point in the story.

My take-aways from this novel are:

(1) to remember that you do not know what other people are dealing with in their lives (alcoholism, abuse, bad marriages, childhood issues) or where they are coming from, so don't judge them, but help when you think you can (like little Petra speaking for Calli and Louis looking out for Toni).

(2) to value the true friends that you have in life because they are such a blessing & you will be there for each other through thick and thin. Calli & Petra were there for each other in each one's moment of need; Louis was there for Toni.

(3) Finally, no one is perfect, we all have things that feel like we could have done better, which may be true, but you can't undo the past...you can only do better today and tomorrow. So let go of it, learn from it and put your best foot forward. It seemed like Toni was very hard on herself for the parenting decisions she made, but to me the real questions should be not if she did everything right, but did she do everything she could given the circumstances & is she striving to be better in the future?

In reading some of the other reviews, I see that others were critical of the literary value of this book. They are correct...the writing style is not all that sophisticated, there aren't many examples of literary tools in use here...so if you're looking for something that can be evaluated for a literature class, you'll be disappointed; however, if you're looking for something that keeps your attention and helps you pass some time, this is a good way to do it.

I did feel like there were a few times that you could tell the author threw in some red herrings. To me, a good suspenseful book is one in which you continue believing that it could be anyone until the end. But I felt like the way she threw in a few of them, you could tell that's what she was trying to and it didn't succeed in creating the suspense I wanted.

I do agree with other readers that one of the weaknesses of this book is that it is told by different points of view (which is fine if you can do it well) but the voices aren't distinct enough to support that style of writing. Calli's voice is different because it is always told third-person, past-tense, while everyone else's is first-person, present-tense. And Ben's voice is different because it is written like a teenage boy. But the rest of the voices were too similar.

In hindsight, I do wonder about the odds of the circumstances...it seems like a stretch that two girls would go missing at the same time, the same day, in the same woods and have two entirely different, horrible stories.

But even given all that, it kept me turning pages. I would definitely recommend it for people looking for a book that will keep their attention and entertain them.

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Friday, November 27, 2009

Coconut-Chocolate Bars


Coconut-Chocolate Bars

1-1/2 cups butter or margarine, softened
1 cup sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla
2 cups all-purpose flour
1 cup unsweetened baking cocoa
2 cups flaked coconut
½ cup caramel topping *
½ cup semisweet chocolate chips**
½ teaspoon vegetable oil

*I used the Smucker’s squeezable caramel ice cream topping and just eye-balled the amount I used

**I had a hard time getting the chocolate chips and vegetable oil to the right consistency for drizzling. So I spread it the best I could then sprinkled extra coconut and chocolate chips on top to hide the blobs of chocolate. Next time, try melting it in a double boiler or maybe adding a bit more vegetable oil.

Heat oven to 350©F. Spray 13x9-inch pan with cooking spray. In large bowl, beat butter, sugar and vanilla with electric mixer on medium speed until smooth. On low speed, beat in flour and cocoa until soft dough forms. On low speed, beat in 1 cup of the coconut. Press mixture in pan. Bake about 25 minutes or until center is set. Drizzle caramel over baked layer; sprinkle with remaining 1 cup coconut. In resealable freezer plastic bag, mix chocolate chips and oil; seal bag. Microwave on high 30-45 seconds, squeezing chocolate in bag every 15 seconds, until smooth. Cut ¼-inch tip from corner of bag; drizzle chocolate over coconut. For bars, cut into 8 rows by 4 rows.

1 bar: 200 Calories; 12 g total fat; 95 mg sodium; 21g carbohydrates, 1g protein.

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

My latest read

You'll Never Nanny in This Town Again: The True Adventures of a Hollywood Nanny You'll" Never Nanny in This Town Again: The True Adventures of a Hollywood Nanny by http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/133128.Suzanne_Hansen">Suzanne Hansen

My rating: http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/51739249">2 of 5 starsI read this book in about a week, just an hour or two each night, so it's quick, easy read. And I have a lot going on right now, so I wasn't in the mood for a heavy or deep, meaningful story and this fit the bill.
I think the reason for my low rating is that I was disappointed by the lack of humor. I had read "The Nanny Diaries" a few years ago and remember laughing through it. I had hoped this one would be somewhat similar.
This is the real-life account of one former Hollywood nanny and her employment with the Ovitz family, followed by a short stint with Debra Winger and then Danny DeVito and Rhea Perlman's family. If her accounts are even half true I am saddened (but not shocked) by the behaviors of the Ovitzes and have a new found respect for Debra Winger and the DeVito family.
The author acknowledges that she did herself a big disservice by not insisting on a contract and not really even having a conversation up front about expectations for working hours, salary, etc. Even when she realized that she needed to say something, she didn't. I agree that alot of the strife she had with the Ovitzes was from her not standing up for herself, but that doesn't excuse some of the behavior on the part of the family.
There were times when I thought the Ovitzes actually sounded pretty nice, like when Michael called the dealership and got them to agree to selling Suzy her car at cost. But then there were other times when they just had unrealistic expectations. I'm not sure that it was intentional, I just think they didn't think beyond themselves sometimes, or didn't live in the real world enough to think about how unrealistic they were being.
I did like that you watched Suzy grow up from a naive, small-town 19-year-old to a more seasoned, and happy 25+ year old who had finally found the things that she wanted for herself.
If you want an easy read or enjoy memoirs or peeks into Hollywood, this will probably fit the bill.
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Saturday, January 24, 2009

Cold weather...

This cold weather has kept me indoors watching movies, reading books and scrapping. Check out some of my latest creations below and STAY WARM!

Rocking in the New Year...

This year, we spent NYE with some friends at their house in South Minneapolis. We had a great time eating, drinking and playing Rock Band.


AIA Fun Run



A co-worked and I volunteered on the AIA 150th anniversary Fun Run planning committee a few years ago. Some of our other co-workers showed up that day to run and/or volunteer. I think everyone had a great time.

The boys


A layout with pictures of me, Jaedon and Kaleb.

Our First Christmas as Mr. and Mrs...


Pictures from our first Christmas married...2006. The little snowflake "tabs" you see peeking out of the left side of the green are the Christmas cards we exchanged that year, hidden in a pocket.

Birthday Boys



Jaedon and Greg's birthday celebration last June in Steph and Pat's backyard.

2009 Cover page

This is going to be the cover page of our 2009 scrapbook...we were ringing in the New Year in this picture. I loved how this paper was perfect for the colors in the picture. Happy New Year!!!

31...

A layout about Greg's 31st birthday celebration with just me and him. He got back from his bike rally the day before his birthday, and I made him a special dinner of brined and grilled beer can chicken, baked beans and one of his favorite cakes that I made: homemade white cake with strawberry meringue frosting.